Do you have issues with believing in yourself? Do you feel that something has happened to your self esteem, and you dont remember when it happened? What couldve happened to you that wouldve caused you to become a shadow of the person you want to be?
Much like aging, which is gradual, and most of us dont realize its true effects until we are in our late 30s looking at old photos or bumping into an old friend and seeing the age in their face, wondering if its in ours as well. So is the chipping away of our self appreciation, esteem and belief. Not any one time, or incident, person or place can be pinpointed. That is most likely why we dont realize its happening until something in our lives occur, and the overwhelming feelings of inadequacy creep in.
The hardest thing about this lesson is this: No matter who, what or where, YOU/ME are responsible for what has happened to us. Now mind you, child abuse, illness, horrible things at young ages, aside......I mean no disrespect there. But it is so true of all of us, that we have allowed ourselves to be pushed into something we didnt want to do. Even after saying we didnt want to do it, we still allowed ourselves to be pushed into it. That is a chip chip chipping on the old self esteem. If this happens alot, then other things creep in as well, such as: what you say doesnt matter, no one listens to you, you arent important enough to consider for a point of view.
All of these things step in and smash away at our self image. I know for myself, that I have allowed so many things to continuously knock me down.....even though it doesnt happen in my life anymore, the lasting affects of years past still rings in my internal ears. What I finally realized is this.....its not gone, its not lost.
It takes hard work. Simple concept, but hard to do. Accepting your responsibility in your acceptance of less than you deserved. Allowing yourself to let go of the past issues that created this lack of self esteem. Do you see the key to the lock here? YOU/ME are the one who has to stand up in the face of that which has bullied us and say, ENOUGH! I am no longer allowing this in my life.
Work, family, friends, lovers, spouses......any relationship that applies to that equation..... YOU + CONCEDE = Lack of Respect for YOU. This is what I always say~ Say what you mean and mean what you say....do you know why? Because at the end of any day, no one will doubt where you stand on any subject, especially you.
So you say, well, what if they dont listen, or what if I cant get my point across MsPeg? That is where you must make the tough choices. Getting to this point means you have allowed yourself to be pushed out of your own truth. Maybe that/those people cant/wont change. Then what? This is the time to make a change for the better. Self esteem and confidence will return as soon as you make some tough choices. Them implement those changes in the direction your life is going. Those that do not keep up will fade away. Think about what that means to you.
I am posting a list of things I found on the net to help you see what I mean.
Love and Blessings~
MsPeg is very direct and honest. Her moto is say what you mean and mean what you say.