 I recently watched a video about healing cancer in 3 minutes with Gregg Braden. What stayed with me most was the concept of Someday not being NOW. Spiritual
My life has literally changed course in the last 24 hours since watching this video, which by the way is amazing to say the least....cause they do cure cancer with the power of the hearts intention in less than 3 minutes. Look for that video, its a mind blower.
This is what crept into my conscious thought after watching it. He says that most people think in the "someday" state of mind. That is to say....if you work hard and do things right, SOMEDAY you will have what you want. If you put the time into to your dreams, SOMEDAY they will come true.
The very core of many peoples existences' is to work toward the goal, or a dream. Its the incomplete thought process that WOKE ME UP yesterday. The Universe hears that we have a dream, and that "someday" we hope to see it happen. What the big truth is is that someday never comes because we are living toward it, NOT IN IT! The HAVING is replaced by the belief that we are LACKING in seeking out our dreams.
You should see my message boards in my house today!!! Hear my children giggling at me when I am walking through my day and reading them aloud!!! Then to hear THEM out of my office door as they too are catching the new vibe in our home, our family....NOW NOW NOW! Whispering to each other, and laughing, yelling out the new words mama has written for us all to say aloud! Its amazing to me to watch them absorb so quickly this new way of being. Psychic
I never thought of things in this manner before. I know I am responsible for the state my life is in. The direction of my financial issues as well. I just never CLEARLY saw what I was doing to myself. I am fully aware now, and all if this from just a couple sentences a man said in a video. I swear to you its as if I was gonged over the head with a reality stick and BOY o BOY do I feel fabulous today!
It is not something I shall ever forget. Do you know what most warms my soul about this lesson for me? That in the midst of my miraculous life are my children, and as I grow and expand, they witness these things. So that their lives at a younger age may be magical and fantastic as well! I am smiling like an Osmond right now, rest assured. Of course I had to jump on over and type out the thoughts for everyone and share!
Make a mental note in your every day thoughts and actions. No longer are your hopes and desires on the "someday" schedule. The Universe needs to FEEL the end game from you! I AM I AM I AM abundant, I AM Healthy, I AM Happy! You get the picture. I feel more now than ever before in my life I AM the me I AM to be!
Love and Miracles out to you my dear~
MsPeg
 Do you have issues with believing in yourself? Do you feel that something has happened to your self esteem, and you dont remember when it happened? What couldve happened to you that wouldve caused you to become a shadow of the person you want to be?
Much like aging, which is gradual, and most of us dont realize its true effects until we are in our late 30s looking at old photos or bumping into an old friend and seeing the age in their face, wondering if its in ours as well. So is the chipping away of our self appreciation, esteem and belief. Not any one time, or incident, person or place can be pinpointed. That is most likely why we dont realize its happening until something in our lives occur, and the overwhelming feelings of inadequacy creep in.
The hardest thing about this lesson is this: No matter who, what or where, YOU/ME are responsible for what has happened to us. Now mind you, child abuse, illness, horrible things at young ages, aside......I mean no disrespect there. But it is so true of all of us, that we have allowed ourselves to be pushed into something we didnt want to do. Even after saying we didnt want to do it, we still allowed ourselves to be pushed into it. That is a chip chip chipping on the old self esteem. If this happens alot, then other things creep in as well, such as: what you say doesnt matter, no one listens to you, you arent important enough to consider for a point of view.
All of these things step in and smash away at our self image. I know for myself, that I have allowed so many things to continuously knock me down.....even though it doesnt happen in my life anymore, the lasting affects of years past still rings in my internal ears. What I finally realized is this.....its not gone, its not lost.
It takes hard work. Simple concept, but hard to do. Accepting your responsibility in your acceptance of less than you deserved. Allowing yourself to let go of the past issues that created this lack of self esteem. Do you see the key to the lock here? YOU/ME are the one who has to stand up in the face of that which has bullied us and say, ENOUGH! I am no longer allowing this in my life.
Work, family, friends, lovers, spouses......any relationship that applies to that equation..... YOU + CONCEDE = Lack of Respect for YOU. This is what I always say~ Say what you mean and mean what you say....do you know why? Because at the end of any day, no one will doubt where you stand on any subject, especially you.
So you say, well, what if they dont listen, or what if I cant get my point across MsPeg? That is where you must make the tough choices. Getting to this point means you have allowed yourself to be pushed out of your own truth. Maybe that/those people cant/wont change. Then what? This is the time to make a change for the better. Self esteem and confidence will return as soon as you make some tough choices. Them implement those changes in the direction your life is going. Those that do not keep up will fade away. Think about what that means to you.
I am posting a list of things I found on the net to help you see what I mean.
Love and Blessings~
MsPeg
- Tell the critical voices of those friends and family shouting in your head to shut up! Actually, say "Stop!" and replace the critical thought with a kind, positive thought. Don't let those critics be your mirror. Those 'friends' can be like fun-house mirrors given the chance! Before you know it, you're too tall, too short, too fat or too thin - depending on which voice is loudest. Nip those inner voices in the bud - don't let anyone, including yourself, put you down. Cross the street if necessary to avoid people who are disparaging, faultfinding and doubting and you won't have to expend all that energy trying to dislodge negative words. After all, if you clog your ears with useless nonsense, how are you going to hear the compliments? Listening to only the negative is deliberately putting yourself into a nightmare! Wake up already!
- Don't compare yourself to others. Why depress yourself by using a friend, acquaintance or movie star as a measuring stick that leaves you short? You don't have to beat yourself up because you're not as rich, famous or thin as what's her name. That's a recipe that can leave the most envied person in the world feeling totally miserable. Trust me, anyone -- no matter how seemingly perfect -- who is focused on how much more fabulous someone else must be, will not be happy! So try something different: look for ways to use the people you admire as your inspiration to help you towards your own goals. What habits does this person have that could work for you and help your own personality to shine? Emulate an exercise regimen, a work ethic or just smile more often!
- Start saying no. Chances are "no" was one of the first words you ever said. At one time, it may even have been your favorite. USE IT! Don't say yes to things you don't want to do - especially when you feel you're being taken advantage of! Practice drawing your boundaries. Start with easy people, if necessary -- like a good friend -- before tackling your boss or your mother. And remember, if you can't say no, at least don't say yes - say maybe. Maybe works, it gives you a chance to think. You can always call and say no later!
- Don't try to change others. If you're trying to change anyone, stop right now! That's exhausting - mainly because it doesn't work! All that trying and trying, the constant vigilance with lots of failure and maybe a little change, a little hope and then a lot of sliding back - I'm exhausted just writing about it! No one can change unless they want to - so stop working so hard! The sense of failure that results when trying to change someone never leads to feeling good about yourself. Be supportive if someone is going through a hard time - but remember, the work is theirs, not yours! The only person you can change is yourself. Accepting that isn't easy, but once you get to that point, the only change you'll be watching will be your self-esteem going through the roof!
B. ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE
- Make a list of your achievements. If you think you don't have any, consider some things about yourself that you take for granted. Can you cook, read, ride a bicycle? Are you the organized one who keeps the family files, pays the bills, gets the kids to school? We all have achieved. It can be as simple as learning how to walk and talk, to learning how to program a VCR, to graduating from high school, to getting a job or to being a good friend. It's easy to forget all we have achieved in our lifetime. Remember that struggle of learning to swim, jump rope or drive and take the time to be proud of your achievements!
- Make a list of your positive inner qualities. Another list - but then, you must like lists - you're reading this one! Lists are great, especially when they're lists about how wonderful you are! Are you nice? Thoughtful? Patient? Smart? Funny? Reliable? Caring? Go ahead, this is for you! You don't have to show anyone else and you certainly don't need to worry that anyone might think you think well of yourself! Keep your list handy and review it whenever you feel down. You're special - celebrate your unique qualities - appreciate yourself!
- Look good. Wear your favorite outfit. Polish your nails, put on a new shade of lipstick or do something different with your hair. And then, feel free to smile at yourself in the mirror before sharing that smile with the rest of the world! It's the fastest fix there is. You can't help but feel good about yourself when you're looking your best. You may even get better service in stores and restaurants! Hold your head up, shoulders back and walk down the street with confidence!
- Exercise - the cure-all of the 90's! But really, it's true! It's hard to feel negative when all those endorphins get flowing! Plus, anytime you feel as though you are doing something positive for yourself; you strengthen your self-esteem. Not into exercise? Use the same principle! Do something positive for yourself! Encourage and enlighten your mind, spirit or body. Read a self-help book, try a 12-step meeting, take up yoga. Sign up for a class that interests you. It's hard to think badly of someone who is constantly expanding herself - even when that someone is you!
- Seek out people who make you feel good. Remember - you get to choose your friends - so why not choose people who think you're great? Stop dismissing those compliments and please - stop arguing with people who think you're fabulous! Modesty is all well and good but saying thank you to a compliment doesn't turn you into an egomaniac! Also, examine your schedule - how much time do you spend with people who make you feel good? Find a way to make time for the special people in your life. Don't fall into the time trap of continually putting off the most important people in your life because you're too busy. Stay in touch - drop them an e-mail or leave a message to let them know you're thinking about them at those times when things truly are impossible. Make the people you love and the people who love you a priority every day!
- Be your own best friend. You're great to all your friends - why not be great to yourself? When you're busy getting down on yourself, stop for a moment. Would you kick your best friend if she were having a bad day? Of course not! So what if you were your own friend? Think about it. Would you be kinder? More understanding and forgiving? Would you give yourself encouragement? Why not be that warm, wonderful, supportive person for yourself! Go ahead! Stop working against your own well-being and be good to yourself!
So take one step at a time and you'll be on your way! As your self-esteem soars, you'll find that you feel happier with yourself and the world around you. Chances are your health will improve. You'll have more time and energy for the things you love to do as well as the people you love. All of this is the natural result of possessing high self-esteem. Remember, with a little effort, anyone can have high self-esteem. It's not an inherited trait; it's a learned skill! Now that you have the tools to start you off, those negative thoughts don't stand a chance! Should they try creeping in, you can just whip out your positive inner quality list and remind yourself of how wonderful you really are!
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